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In other words, give yourself permission to be you. Take the time to show up and take care of yourself. Give yourself permission to do, be, act however you need to so that you can give yourself whatever it is that you truly want from your life. No, that's not a typo. You really are creating quite a mess for yourself when you carry around years and platters -- full of anger, upset, and resentment towards others and yourself.
Who are you hurting? Frustration and aggravation can weigh you down both metaphorically and literally. Free yourself from guilt, anger, and hurt. Let the bitters go! Create space for success, abundance, prosperity, love, happiness, and enthusiasm. Repeat after me, " All is Forgiven, Move On! What are you putting up with, what are you stomaching? What's getting in your way?
What are you tolerating? It could be as simple as the dust behind the refrigerator, or could be a more complicated matter like a certain person in your life, or it could be one of those really tough things -- bad hair days! Any time you sincerely want to change your life, one of the first things you must do is change what you demand for yourself and raise your standards. Imagine all your "tolerations" as stones, twigs, and rocks -- maybe even fallen trees -- which you have essentially placed onto your path and have to maneuver around every day.
These stumbling blocks slow us down and sap our energy. As you clear your path, you will travel faster and more smoothly It will become increasingly easier to recognize and to say no to anything that could slow you down. Clear your path, and you will create space for your best self. Yes, I am advising you to set unreasonable goals if you want to transform your life.
As "they" say, it's the journey that matters, not whether you reach the exact destination you thought you were heading towards. After all, the act of pursuing a goal activates the release of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine affects our capacity to feel pleasure and pain. Once the goal has been reached, the pleasure stops. So, it makes sense then to set a totally unreasonable goal, outside your comfort zone, and create small goals on the way to it.
As you work toward your big "G," you will accomplish many little g's.
I say, "Be real. Who's not afraid? How can you do that? What if you make friends with fear and invite it in? Come on in. You can let it go now. Knock fear out of the ballpark, circle the bases, and head on home. You are the champion of your newly transformed life! I reinvented myself 7 years ago. Instead of holding a job, I now do my life's work.
If I can, you can! Janice Taylor is a weight loss coach, author, columnist and pound big-time-loser. Interested in one-on-one coaching? Write Janice for a free consult.
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If your child is leaving for college, downsizing to a smaller home can be a part of your reinvention. Its hard not to go grow and change significantly once you decide to reinvent your path. Because any time you take action and decide to bring something new into play, something old has to go away to make room for the new. I never do anything half way. So when we decided to make a change in our lives — reinvent the next phase — I of course went all in immediately.
Sell the house. Sell half our stuff. Sell part of our business. Move miles away. Because we could! And what fun would it be to do something small when something BIG could have that much more impact. I quickly discovered that once I took action in one area of my life, I jumped in and made changes in other areas as well. All of a sudden you have to quit dreaming and start doing. And that does something to you. If shifts your entire energy levels to a new pattern.
You can no longer afford to think the old way if you have the desire to make the new way to succeed. It all helps you grow and become the person you are meant to be. The older you get, the more you realize some things mean more to you than others. This being the third time of starting over called for a complete and total reinvention. Q1: How do you feel right now? You know there is more you are supposed to do with your life. These are the seeds of toxic thoughts. Perhaps you feel hopeless and helpless to do anything about your life.
Are you stuck in a rut of misery in what feels like a repeat of yesterday or last week — month — year? Do you feel like you are standing in place? At this stage, recognize that the toxicity level has taken root and is growing. When the pain of the present becomes greater than the fear of the future, that is when real change begins to take place.
It may be a job or career, a relationship, your health or even a sense of purpose. It could also be all of these. Most likely the answer is fear. The risk of waiting until then, however, is sinking into deep depression or emotionally reacting in such a way that in the short term may feel good but has long-term consequences that are less than desirable. Depression sets in and levels increase when fueled by our expectations not being met. To reduce depression levels, you must determine to find the courage to try and change, for the better. In little steps at first.
These small wins will help build your confidence to continue to grow. Whether it be learning a new skill, mastering a bad habit, working on a rebuilding a relationship or in some cases, cleaning out the storage and taking out the trash — i. Q2: Who are you? When you have nagging or even gut-wrenching sense that you have become someone other than yourself, you may just have. When you feel like a facade, a phony or fake; always going into character, even around those whom you should be able to let your guard down around; there may be a problem. When you are doing something you are not supposed to be doing and are where you are not supposed to be, you become someone you are not.
Stop and take inventory. Is this you? Who you really are? Does what you are doing align with your passions, values, and goals or are you just miserably plodding along hoping things will change? When a car becomes out of alignment, we take it in and have an adjustment made. Otherwise, we run the risk of prematurely wearing out the tires and worse, other expensive components on the car.
The same holds true with you. Why wear your heart, brain or other vital organs out, being something you are not or doing something you hate. You get one life.
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You know yourself better than anyone. Q3: Where are you going? Do you have a clear sense of direction on where you are headed, or do you find yourself suffocating, hopelessly toiling in what you are doing? Like there is no way out? Pay close attention to your thoughts. They serve to help you grow or hold you back or hostage to your past. Divorce your past, fall in love, marry and live your now into your future.
Determine to reprogram your brain. Practice this until it becomes a habit to replace every negative and toxic thought with a positive and good one. When the voice in your head brings up the past, replace that thought with where you want to and will be in the future. This paves the road for you to travel forward and incites action. He uses this as a formula for creating sustainably great companies.
This concept can also be applied to individuals. The approach is rather simple. First, draw three overlapping circles. Where the three circle intersects in the center is your sweet spot. If you make this your primary area of focus, your vision, drive and goal, you stand a much greater chance and achieving not just good success but sustainably great success.
This main benefit of formula is that it can lead you to purpose in life. The ripple effect of that is indescribable as it relates to life harmony and balance, fulfillment, peace, joy and even happiness. If the center of the concentric circles benefits others, then the impact becomes off the charts in terms of the degree of positive effect both on you and those whom you cross paths with. This sort of re-invention is a life-changing event. A priceless and even life-saving one when pursued with a dogged determination that is fueled by a desire to never return to an undesirable past.
Starting over through reinvention is one of if not the most important exercise you can undertake in your life. Entrepreneur Author, Wise Millennial.
You have the power to create your own reality. Your happiness lies from within and is not dependent upon others. This is very easy to say and incredibly difficult to perform. Second, you should surround yourself with like-minded people who share your same passions. Remove any ego and be open-minded. Stay at 30, feet.
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Character development is the foundation from which our worldview is established. You might even find yourself headed down an unsatisfying path. Ultimately, an inward focus will actually allow you to organize your activities more efficiently, thus creating more free time, not less. Once you have an idea of what direction you would like to head then it requires a lot of trust and a belief in yourself that you will find your way once you take that leap and begin to head in a new direction. Ten years ago, I took that leap while I was running my family business.
I had been running this business, which was a successful golf center in Salem, Oregon for 11 years. But I was really unhappy and felt like I had stopped growing there. So, I left the business. I had no idea what I was going to do with my life after leaving the golf center, but I trusted my decision. And as my self-awareness grew, so did my creativity and I began to unlock a lot of talents that I had no idea existed inside of me.
Life is constantly flowing and evolving around us. Life is so much richer when we continue to grow, mature, and have new experiences. And of course, do what you love. It is as simple as it sounds. It is very important that you be able to do the things that you love and enjoy so that you can truly feel the full capacity of who you are and what you are about.
You deserve to live life on your own terms. It is possible though to start looking around for others or maybe take some classes on the side to begin to develop some new skills that might lead to a new opportunity in doing something that you enjoy more. If you love to write and want to make it your profession maybe take a creative writing class or work part-time doing something you love until you can do it full time. You can start over in any minute of any day, including days that you think have gone bad.
The moment you are sick of having a bad day and decide you want to start your day over, you can. You have that power. It takes the acceptance that in order to change you have to change something in your daily routine.