Ironically, for those inclined toward perfectionism, embracing lower standards--accepting a job done well enough then moving on--requires more wisdom and self-discipline than trying to do it better. It can be hard to accept that a quality usually held up as a virtue can in fact be a vice--but awareness is the first step toward defusing a potential career killer. To perform optimally--whether designing an experiment, preparing a publication, or executing any of the small tasks necessary to move your career forward--you need to invest the right amount of time and energy into your work to achieve high-quality output.
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If you find yourself working obsessively and achieving little, perfectionism may be inhibiting your productivity. Perfectionists can be so short-term goal-directed that they can't see to either side or very far in front of them. They focus so hard on producing perfect work that they lose sight of the bigger picture. If you're a perfectionist, you may start working on a grant proposal months before the deadline yet fail to finish it on time.
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Projects may never seem to end because you analyze and reanalyze data and never get around to writing it up. And when you do start writing, you may get scooped because your manuscript is never good enough. You may even move from laboratory to laboratory, hoping to find a professional home that's more prestigious or has higher standards of performance--or because your professional relationships at your last lab were strained. He would write and re-write and then, when I finally thought we were home free, he would decide to reorganize the paper and the process would start all over again.
I did follow his career and he ended up going into science management--where, I suspect, he is now continuing to drive his colleagues and junior scientists crazy. Resentment and frustration build because they don't consider their goals unreasonable and they can't understand why their projects never come to fruition. They rarely experience the gratification that comes from a job well done--or done at all.
They may feel overworked even though they, their projects, and their colleagues would be better off if their workdays were shorter. Perfectionists are also prone to hold others to unachievable standards, so most people disappoint them, which can strain relationships with colleagues.
Perfectionism can also harm people's health and personal lives. Because they are compelled to do ever better and never to err, they are under constant, self-imposed stress. Depression is common among perfectionists. Perfectionists have trouble determining what's important and what isn't because they hold themselves to the same standard of perfection for every task.
So set priorities and minimize your investment of time and energy in the less important things. The less time you spend on the informal talk, the more you will have to prepare a high-impact presentation for that national meeting. Decide you need to finish a job by a certain time, and when that time comes, get it off your desk or bench whether you're happy with it or not.
This will help your productivity and give you practice letting go of things before they're perfect. But for many of us, that's easier to say than to do. When my son was young, he desperately wanted to play ice hockey like the professionals he had seen on television. He left the rink crying before he gained the maturity to realize that hockey required time and effort to master and set a lower standard for himself, at least in the short term. Many of us still have an inner child who demands perfection.
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Pat yourself on the back for letting things go and for working quickly and smartly. Lowering your standards can be a nice accomplishment. So think hard about your standards and your performance but don't stop there; check in with other people, too. Figure out whether your approach to your work is dictated by professional standards or by your own psychological needs. Check your approach against the work of accomplished colleagues in and outside your research group and revise your standards if they don't match up. Remove those blinders and look all around; your environment might be making things worse.
A nit-picking supervisor will only exacerbate your perfectionist tendencies. Then Jin-poong meets Brutus's younger sister Lee Soo-jin, a smart, tough lawyer. In contrast to his older brother's cautious and responsible personality, second son Dae-poong is a playboy doctor who gets out of scrapes with his boyish charm. He runs a small clinic right above Jin-poong's pharmacy, with one employee, nurse Kim Bok-shil.
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Bok-shil doesn't have any family and lives by herself in an apartment in the neighborhood, and comes by to the Song household daily to help their mother cook and clean. Dae-poong takes Bok-shil for granted, not knowing that she's a little bit in love with him. Third son Sun-poong is a vegetarian and animal-lover who works as a news reporter at broadcast station KBC. He's earnest, sweet, honest, and a little dense when it comes to romance. Sun-poong's direct boss, TV station director Oh Young-dal sets him up with his daughter, newcomer actress Eun-ji.
Eun-ji has a spoiled princess complex and she doesn't think Sun-poong is her type, but when he doesn't seem interested in her, her ego takes a blow and his obliviousness makes him attractive to her. The youngest son is year-old Mi-poong, who just graduated from high school and has failed to be accepted to university, so he's in the middle of studying for a retest. He's extremely sensitive, and speaks to everyone in super-formal language. Gifted in sewing and crafts, Mi-poong often gets mocked for being too girly. Mi-poong's best friend Park Yong-chul got a girl, Choi Soo-hee pregnant, and she leaves her five-month-old baby Hana with him.
As Yong-chul works multiple jobs to earn money, Mi-poong looks after Hana and grows attached to the baby. When Yong-chul receives his army papers , Mi-poong agrees to take care of Hana until he gets discharged. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. My Too Perfect Sons Promotional poster. KBS Global.